Too busy to make progress

A few years ago I was working in a very busy outpatients department and the one thing I remember is that I did not have a day were I was clock watching because it was just very busy. I would arrive at reception at 8:30am and before I even turned my computer on I had doctors asking me for all kind of printed lists and before long the patients were queuing up and the day of dealing with query after query and complaint after complaint began. I felt like I did not have enough time to do all I need to do so I went in on weekends on my time to finish off some of the work that was not done in the week. I worked all the hours under the sun but I always felt like I was not making any progress in the job, in myself and…read more >

What you focus on will determine your success in life

My grandfather always used to tell us to focus on the positive out of every situation in life; I can remember him telling my order cousins that no matter how bad things may seem to be there is always going to be a positive thing in it. He always used to back up his theory with a little story which went like this. There once was man who worked for a shoe making company, he was sent to another country to see if the company should sell shoes in that country. When he came back a month later he told his company that there was no point trying to sell shoes in that country because people in that country did not wear shoes. His boo decided to send another one of his employees to go to that country and a week later he come back and he told his boss…read more >

The Dream was bigger than my anxiety

It was November 2014; I had just picked up a booked by world renowned Motivation Speaker Les Brown called “You can live your dreams”. After reading this book I was convinced this was the path I was meant to follow in life, People who knew me seven years ago would tell you how shy and reserved I was (I know, it’s very hard to believe now) the truth is I was a very anxious young man who did not have any confidence in his abilities. However this dream started to grow each and everyday, I started to read a lot of self-help books to see how other speakers were doing it. I started to contact local speakers to get advice and guidance. One of the speakers I spoke to encouraged me to join toastmasters which I did and I never looked back. I meet a lot of people who say…read more >

Why you should attend finding your Voice

It was December 1995; It was a very exciting time of my young life because I as getting ready to start primary school the following week. One evening, I was watching television with my cousins who were looking after us because parents were out as were on many occasions, we were watching a movie when we heard raised voices which i soon recognised, it was my parents, I took no notice at all but all the adults in the room went to see what was going on after a few minutes I heard mum scream so I ran down to the kitchen to see what was going on, I was greeted by blood on the floor, I could see a knife had been used and my heart stopped at which point my young brother came down to tell me what was going on in the movie we were watching and…read more >

Today is the only true possession you have

Growing up in a house with domestic abuse and being bullied in school meant that I was going through each and everyday with a lot of worries. I was always worried that something was going to go wrong or something bad was going to happen, I would always wonder if I was going to hear raised voices or if someone I thought was a friend of mine was going to turn against me because they do not want to be seen associating with me but they would join the group of people who used to bully me. I lived everyday with the expectation that something was bound to go wrong, even when things were going well I would say things like “This is just too good to be true, something is bound to go wrong” and the majority of the time it went wrong. Do you remember how excited you…read more >

Sometimes you will get it wrong

A few years ago in one a of the first jobs I had after leaving university a colleague of mine walked in the room and told one of my other colleagues that they had made an error that morning. The response this person gave shocked me a little bit, they were so angry that this person would dare to suggest that they had made an error. What was even more incredible was that this person refused to go back and correct their error because they were so instant that they had not made an error. I was so surprised by this reaction because the error was so small and it could have only taken a few minutes to sort it out. I met this lady a few weeks ago and she told me she was on her 7th job since I last worked with her and she was telling me…read more >

If you don’t handle it with grace, it will stay in your face

A few years ago I was working with a very difficult person, I would get home everyday and I would be so angry about what happened in the day. The weeks that followed were the worst weeks of my short working life, I dreaded going into work, I would stay up all night worrying about what the next day was going to bring. The next day I would try my utmost best to be friendly to this person but nothing seemed to work. I had been looking forward to do this job but now that it was here I found myself living in a nightmare. I was completely stressed-out; I was not eating or sleeping well. I did not feel like I had a lot of control in my life, I did not feel like I could control any part of this situation. Before this experience I would say thing…read more >

What my Toastmasters Journey taught me about life

In August 2015 I joined Gloucester Speaker’s club with a dream of following a speaking career but very soon I realised I was not as good as thought I was. I had enthusiasm, ambition and determination but I was not a great speaker by any stretch of imagination. I did my ice breaker ( the first speech in Toastmasters) a few weeks after I joined and I quickly followed it up with another speech and another. However I was not very happy with my progress. Very soon I started to wonder if following my dreams of becoming a motivational speaker was a good idea. By the time I got to my fourth my confidence had not grown, in fact I was less confident in my speaking ability however I realised that if I did not speak I would lose all confidence so carried on signing up for more speeches, I…read more >

Look after your Garden of life

In 2015 my wife Suzie and I bought the house we live in at the moment and I remember how exciting it was to get our first house which we were going to call home. We looked at all the rooms in the house with so much excitement, every room looked clean and you could tell that the person who lived in the house really cared about the house. We then went to see the garden; the garden was big with so much space but something caught my attention, the rose flowers in the garden had dried out but the weeds were growing like no man’s business. You see the roses needed looking after and the weeds did not need any care at all and if I wanted a lovely garden I had to ensure that the roses are looked after and the weeds are taken out. As I was…read more >

Stop Living in Hope and Start Creating

Last Saturday my wife was busy in the kitchen preparing our evening meal when she realised that we did not have some of the ingredients we needed so I put some trainers and ran to the shop so that i can come back to the football match I was watching. I got the things we needed and I went to check out. As I went to the check out looking for quick getaway I realised that that was not going to happen because I had ten people in front of me. I did what I do every time I find myself surrounded by a lot of people, I just started watching everyone and very quickly I realised that every person who went to the checkout was buying lottery ticket, by the time I got to the check out, every single person in front of me had bought a ticket. When…read more >