The time of uncertainty is the time to get ahead

In around 2001 the mine company that was running the mine in my home town Luasnhya upped and left and this meant a lot of people did not get paid. People were still going to work every day but there was no salary coming in for months and sometimes up to 6 months at the time. This was a very difficult time for a lot of people, people stopped making big plans and they put all their goals on hold because of the uncertainty that was in the town. I had never seen so much poverty in one place, just a few months earlier we had everything but now the whole town was covered in poverty that had not been seen before. However the one thing I remember was that some people used this opportunity to do better for themselves, a lot of people decided to stop trading because they…read more >

If you are not doing anything about it then you are not very worried about it

One day on my way from work, I heard two students talking about their upcoming exams, one of them said they were very worried about their exams and to ensure that they were prepared they will spend the whole weekend revising. The person said that I am very worried too but I will spend my weekend doing something fun. They went on to talk about all the things that they will be doing that weekend instead of revising. The other person was so surprised that this person was going to spend the entire weekend just having fun instead of working hard on the things that really matter. They walked for almost half a mile and this person who was going to spend his weekend revising asked why his friend was going to spend the whole weekend playing instead of studying? This young person then said something that is really profound,…read more >

Stop rushing through life and start learning

My boss walked in the room and gave me a hand written document to type up and email to her, I grab the document and without even thinking through what I have been asked I rush to carry out the task without giving it a lot of thought. After that I go to my to-do list and tick that task off and I move on to the next task. I tick off a lot of tasks and I am proud of myself, I have gone through a lot of tasks very quickly. For me looking at how many tasks have completed constituted a successful day. I go into work the next day and my boss is not happy with the standard of my work, the other managers are not happy with the quality of the work I have been doing for them, this is not what i wanted, I always…read more >

Take Responsibility

A few years ago a witnessed someone carrying out a task that is usually done by someone else. I had seen this before and I knew the first thing that they were going to do was to complain about it and complain about it they did. As they started doing the work they realised that the task was very complicated and for the next two hours all I heard was them complaining about the work they were doing. This person then said something that I hear a lot of people say every day and that is “if this goes wrong it is not my fault” This person was just starting a new task that they have never done before and the first thing they thought was not taking responsibility. However after they did the job really well told everyone that came to their desk. They went on to tell me…read more >

I stayed longer than I should have

A few years ago I started a new job after a very difficult three months; this job gave me security and stability which I was looking for. Before I got the job I would look out for other opportunities but once I got this job I did not look at other opportunities. I have always been driven by goals but when I got this job I stopped setting goals for myself. I was a kid with a dream to do great things but the previous three months had completely knocked my confidence. I felt very lucky to even get the job. A year later I realised that I needed to make a changes in my life, I needed a new job to enhance my career but I did not do anything to change anything in my life. I stayed in that job for nearly four years and for two years…read more >

If you are good at building houses with wood, don’t build houses with bricks.

It was a very cold winter morning in Gloucestershire and I was meeting my coaching client. He sat down next to me and said “nothing is working” What is not working I said? Everything I put my hands on is not working he said. He went on to tell me that he has tried to do a lot of things but nothing is working. He looked at me and said that I think I should give up on the whole thing. I asked him what he was really good at to which he responded by giving me a list of things he wanted to do. Again I asked what sort of things he was really good at and he said that he likes organising people, if he is given a task to do he would go out and do it straight away, he went to tell me that he does…read more >

Keep Your Dream Alive!

Do you remember how easy it was to dream when you were young? Every dream seemed achievable, and the word impossible was never in your vocabulary. Even though I struggled in school I still thought that I could be someone special in life. I remember when I was in year 5 and was struggling in school but my dream was to be a doctor when I grew up. No matter what the struggles were the future was still bright. However, by the time I was 15 years old the expectation of the bright future was slowly dying and by the time I left Zambia to come to the UK the dream was dead. It was not until I failed my high school exams that I decided to resurrect the dream of a bright future. My life was going nowhere until I made a decision to dream again, having a dream…read more >

Stop and fix the tyre if it needs fixing

A few years ago I found myself doing a job that I did not like; I used to dread just waking up in the morning. I would get up every morning with the intention to make that day the best it could be but at the end of it I was back where I was the previous day. I had just left a job where I did reasonably well, I worked at a reception desk of a busy day unit but I made a decision to leave after experiencing what I thought was unfair treatment from the manager. However, here I was struggling every day and just trying to do the best that I could. There was no love lost between me and my new manager. I could not do anything right. One day after taking a week off work I went back into work and my manager was ready…read more >

You are the only person who needs to know why you are doing what you are doing

A few years ago I decided that the time had come for me to changes jobs and to show my boss some respect I told them that I had job interviews to go to. Their response was not the best, they questioned why I was going for those jobs I was going for. I knew that I had over stayed in the job and the time had come for me to move on, I did not take a lot of notice to what my manager was saying because I knew he time had come for me to move on. I had waited for the right opportunity for almost a year and now this opportunity was here and I was going to take it. I remember I spent a few minutes trying to convince my boss that I was making the right decision then I realised that the decision was supposed…read more >

Finish what you start.

One day a friend of mine came to see me and he was excited about the new life coaching course he was doing. I have never seen him so enthusiastic about anything and I thought he has finally found something he was going to see through. A couple months later he told me about another course he was now doing and when I enquired about what happened with the other course he was doing the last time I saw him, He told me that he had given up on that course and the one he was currently doing was a lot better. I did not think a lot about I just thought he found a better course and he went for it. When I met up with him a few months later he told me was doing a different course. Every time I caught up with him he was doing…read more >