When the pain of not leading the life you want becomes greater than your fear of failure.

It was cold Monday morning, and my friend James was anxious as he was every time he went to work. He turned his computer on, went to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee as he did everyday. Work had become predictable the sparkle that once existed in his life was long gone. He walked back to his desk and some people were complementing him on how smart he was and others were laughing at him. He saw one of his managers he admired a lot and he went to talk to her but she did not want to talk to him, she went to talk to a different person about sports. Suddenly, he remembered he had dream but the fear of failing was holding him back. He had thought of working on his dream but all the time he thinks about failing he settles for his day job.…read more >

A Letter to young Frank

Dear Frank, I am writing to you today to tell you that it time you let go of the pain you have having being going through. I know you did not have a lot of peace in your life, every day was a full of uncertainty, you were told by so many people that you can do great things in your life. Remember the year one teacher who called you a fool and Mr Bean? Of course you do, you carried those feelings in your heart for so many years and sometimes I feel them even today. It was tough been labelled a waste of space at a very young age, it was tough not having proper friends in your life, remember how you had to steal money from your mum’s pace so that you can buy things for other people so that they like you, you would get in…read more >

What is stopping you?

He looked at me and said “sorry Mr. Saliki but you can’t drive”. This was a day that I found out that I will never get to drive a car for the rest of my life. Time stood still for a few minutes as my consultant handed me a piece of paper discharging me from his care. I had gone to see him hoping that he was going to help me, hoping that he was going to find what the problem was and he was going to sort me out. I left the hospital with the diagnosis and also with the knowledge that my eyes will never get better. This got me thinking about a lot of things that I could not do because of my eye condition, I needed to get a job in a place that was in the centre or a place with public transport. For a…read more >

My difficult past is the reason I am so happy today

Do you remember your first day of school ? How were you feeling? I remember mine, I was so nervous and this was even made worse when I was bullied on my first day of school. The next day my year one teacher encouraged all my class mates to sing a song with a following word “ Saliki Chama is a fool, Saliki Chama is Mr Bean” with those words going around school no one was ever going to be my friend. I was laughed at wherever I went around the school. I am sure you all had that kid in your school who was always on his own, I was that kid, segregated from his peers by a teacher who was supposed to help him on his journey. It took me a long time for to start making friends, for me to discover who I was and to be…read more >

How to win friends and influence people

When you hear the title of the book you think Dale Carnegie is trying to teach you how to control other people but from the first page you realise that this book does the opposite, it teaches you how to ensure that people feel they are in control. The first thing that Dale brings to the reader’s attention is the fact that we all feel like we are right and justified in doing whatever we are doing. I Think he was trying to tells us that we all have reasons why we think what we think and do what we do. The first point that came to me was that if we feel like our beliefs are being challenged we are going to fight tooth and nail to defend them, however if the person we are talking to acknowledges that there is sense in what we talking about and Marely…read more >

When your desire to win is bigger than your disability

Every Morning I wake up like most people, I find my running shoes and I am off, come back home I do some reading and I prepare myself mentally for the day. At a glance I have not got anything wrong with me, I am author and speaker and I know a few people who think I am lucky and talented and some people talk about how they would love to be in my shoes. However what a lot of people don’t know is that I have my daily struggles and sometimes doing the simplest of things in life can be a struggle. I have an eye condition called Nystagmus ( an Involuntary movement of the eye) which makes it difficult for to do the simplest, line cutting piece of paper in straight line, going a new place because I am not able to read the signs until I am…read more >

The Biggest lesson I learnt from winning a Toastmasters Speech Contest

It was a very cold Sunday morning and that afternoon I was to compete in the Area 11 Toastmaster International speech contest. This was going to be the first time I was going to be speaking outside our local club and I did not know what to expect. I had not been to any speech contests before so I did not what it was going to happen and I was a little bit anxious because I was speaking in a place that I was not familiar with. My friend Michael picked me up at 1pm that afternoon and I was glad I had great company because we spoke about a lot of other things other than what I was going to be talking about. When I turned up I realised that I was up against some very good and accomplished speakers, I thought I will just have to make sure…read more >

Everyone wants to feel Important

In 2014 I started a new job and I was really looking forward to it because I had previously worked in that organisation in another department and I had great time. I posted on Facebook on how great I felt to be back working in the organisation because the previous time was very short and successful. However the second spell was not a happy one to start off with, I was paired with an experienced employee who did not show me the work that was been done. After a month in the job, I became very disillusioned with the job, every day was a struggle and I started looking for other jobs. A few months later she made a decision to leave, it wasn’t until three months later that it dawned on me that she did not like because I made feel less important that she was before I joined.…read more >

The Importance of taking responsibility

It was not me! it was my wife he said, it was not me it was my husband! She said. For 20 years these two people told everyone in their life that the other person was responsible for the breakup of their marriage. These two people spent a lot of their lives telling everyone that the other person was responsible for what went wrong in their marriage and no one was willing to take responsibility for the state of their marriage so in the end the marriage broke up. Fast forward 20 years later, the couple are now order and wiser and this time they are not arguing about who was right and who was wrong but they are both acknowledging that they had a part to play in the breakup of their marriage. After 20 years these two people are back together and enjoying a great life only because…read more >

You will never be motivated to do anything without having a goal

My book Arise and Shine chronicles my six years journey from a high school failure to a university, the journey which began on the day that I failed my high school exams. I think I struggled in school because I did not have a destination that required me to do more than I was, From time to time I was able to come up with some will power to do more but this always disappeared as quickly as it came to me, even though I failed my exams you could not fault me for effort, I tried the best I could to turn things around but I did not have a direction at all. However the day I set a goal to go to university everything seemed a lot easier, if I needed to spend nine hours that day to understand something, I found the motivation to spend nine hour…read more >