A few years ago I started a new job after a very difficult three months; this job gave me security and stability which I was looking for. Before I got the job I would look out for other opportunities but once I got this job I did not look at other opportunities. I have always been driven by goals but when I got this job I stopped setting goals for myself. I was a kid with a dream to do great things but the previous three months had completely knocked my confidence. I felt very lucky to even get the job. A year later I realised that I needed to make a changes in my life, I needed a new job to enhance my career but I did not do anything to change anything in my life. I stayed in that job for nearly four years and for two years…read more >

It was a very cold winter morning in Gloucestershire and I was meeting my coaching client. He sat down next to me and said “nothing is working” What is not working I said? Everything I put my hands on is not working he said. He went on to tell me that he has tried to do a lot of things but nothing is working. He looked at me and said that I think I should give up on the whole thing. I asked him what he was really good at to which he responded by giving me a list of things he wanted to do. Again I asked what sort of things he was really good at and he said that he likes organising people, if he is given a task to do he would go out and do it straight away, he went to tell me that he does…read more >

Do you remember how easy it was to dream when you were young? Every dream seemed achievable, and the word impossible was never in your vocabulary. Even though I struggled in school I still thought that I could be someone special in life. I remember when I was in year 5 and was struggling in school but my dream was to be a doctor when I grew up. No matter what the struggles were the future was still bright. However, by the time I was 15 years old the expectation of the bright future was slowly dying and by the time I left Zambia to come to the UK the dream was dead. It was not until I failed my high school exams that I decided to resurrect the dream of a bright future. My life was going nowhere until I made a decision to dream again, having a dream…read more >

A few years ago I found myself doing a job that I did not like; I used to dread just waking up in the morning. I would get up every morning with the intention to make that day the best it could be but at the end of it I was back where I was the previous day. I had just left a job where I did reasonably well, I worked at a reception desk of a busy day unit but I made a decision to leave after experiencing what I thought was unfair treatment from the manager. However, here I was struggling every day and just trying to do the best that I could. There was no love lost between me and my new manager. I could not do anything right. One day after taking a week off work I went back into work and my manager was ready…read more >

A few years ago I decided that the time had come for me to changes jobs and to show my boss some respect I told them that I had job interviews to go to. Their response was not the best, they questioned why I was going for those jobs I was going for. I knew that I had over stayed in the job and the time had come for me to move on, I did not take a lot of notice to what my manager was saying because I knew he time had come for me to move on. I had waited for the right opportunity for almost a year and now this opportunity was here and I was going to take it. I remember I spent a few minutes trying to convince my boss that I was making the right decision then I realised that the decision was supposed…read more >

One day a friend of mine came to see me and he was excited about the new life coaching course he was doing. I have never seen him so enthusiastic about anything and I thought he has finally found something he was going to see through. A couple months later he told me about another course he was now doing and when I enquired about what happened with the other course he was doing the last time I saw him, He told me that he had given up on that course and the one he was currently doing was a lot better. I did not think a lot about I just thought he found a better course and he went for it. When I met up with him a few months later he told me was doing a different course. Every time I caught up with him he was doing…read more >

A few months ago I contacted a few people I know and asked them if they can do a speaking event with event with me. This was going to be my most successful speaking event yet, I had four speakers and it was going to be a six hour event. The event was going to held hundreds of miles away from my home in Gloucester. Just like every event I have set up, everything is slow in the first few months, not a lot of tickets are sold but then it all moves very fast closer to the time. However on this occasion things were very slow. Things got worse when I started receiving emails from people asking for their refund as they were not able to make the event anymore. The day of the event was getting closer and I started doing the months and I realised that I…read more >

It was a cold Sunday morning In the valleys of Wales and my brother and I were being picked up by a priest we had never met before. That Sunday morning we went to a congregation that was deep in the valleys in a little welsh village called Brynaman. I did not know know Peter was going to play an important role in my life; he has since become one of great mentors in life. When we first met Peter he was intrigued about Zambia he asked a lot of questions about Zambia and about everything that we were doing in the UK. He did not tell us a lot about himself but he asked a lot of questions about us. When I got to know him better I realised that he did this a lot with other people, it seemed to me like Peter was a student of life.…read more >

A received an email from a young man who was struggling in his job, he was asking for me to give him some inspiration to move forward in his life. This email was the longest email I had seen, this young man told me everything that was in his heart. I could not just write back, I needed to speak to this person, they were carrying so much baggage and I just wanted to help them so much. I get a lot of these emails but this one was different, this was a man who had reached breaking point and wanted to move forward in his life. The next day I was speaking to him on skype,, I asked him what was holding him back and that’s when he started telling me about his past. He spoke about how his father abandoned him when he was young and how the…read more >

A few years ago I was working with a colleague who was very difficult, for a reason unknown to me she did not like me at all. This meant that she would find a lot of faults in my work and to make matters worse she was very close to my manager and very soon my manager started to find a lot of faults in my work, Very soon I was stressed out, I was struggling to sleep and if I got to sleep i would wake up in a panic. This carried on for three whole months, I tried to do all I could to make it stop, I would stay half an hour late and not claim the time back. I did everything I did to improve things in the work place but no matter what did; things did not get any better. I went from anxious to…read more >