Accepting that life is uncertain is very important to our happiness

I have told this story a lot of times but I will tell it again, it is the story of how the mine company my mum worked for upped and left all the workers without pay. My mum did not have any income all of the sudden and most days we did not know if we were going to have anything to eat. The one thing I remember was that we just accepted this uncertainty, as young people we still had the same amount of joy we had, we did not know if we were going to have anything to…read more >

The time of uncertainty is the time to get ahead

In around 2001 the mine company that was running the mine in my home town Luasnhya upped and left and this meant a lot of people did not get paid. People were still going to work every day but there was no salary coming in for months and sometimes up to 6 months at the time. This was a very difficult time for a lot of people, people stopped making big plans and they put all their goals on hold because of the uncertainty that was in the town. I had never seen so much poverty in one place, just…read more >

If you are not doing anything about it then you are not very worried about it

One day on my way from work, I heard two students talking about their upcoming exams, one of them said they were very worried about their exams and to ensure that they were prepared they will spend the whole weekend revising. The person said that I am very worried too but I will spend my weekend doing something fun. They went on to talk about all the things that they will be doing that weekend instead of revising. The other person was so surprised that this person was going to spend the entire weekend just having fun instead of working…read more >

Stop rushing through life and start learning

My boss walked in the room and gave me a hand written document to type up and email to her, I grab the document and without even thinking through what I have been asked I rush to carry out the task without giving it a lot of thought. After that I go to my to-do list and tick that task off and I move on to the next task. I tick off a lot of tasks and I am proud of myself, I have gone through a lot of tasks very quickly. For me looking at how many tasks have…read more >

Take Responsibility

A few years ago a witnessed someone carrying out a task that is usually done by someone else. I had seen this before and I knew the first thing that they were going to do was to complain about it and complain about it they did. As they started doing the work they realised that the task was very complicated and for the next two hours all I heard was them complaining about the work they were doing. This person then said something that I hear a lot of people say every day and that is “if this goes wrong…read more >

I stayed longer than I should have

A few years ago I started a new job after a very difficult three months; this job gave me security and stability which I was looking for. Before I got the job I would look out for other opportunities but once I got this job I did not look at other opportunities. I have always been driven by goals but when I got this job I stopped setting goals for myself. I was a kid with a dream to do great things but the previous three months had completely knocked my confidence. I felt very lucky to even get the…read more >

If you are good at building houses with wood, don’t build houses with bricks.

It was a very cold winter morning in Gloucestershire and I was meeting my coaching client. He sat down next to me and said “nothing is working” What is not working I said? Everything I put my hands on is not working he said. He went on to tell me that he has tried to do a lot of things but nothing is working. He looked at me and said that I think I should give up on the whole thing. I asked him what he was really good at to which he responded by giving me a list of…read more >

Keep Your Dream Alive!

Do you remember how easy it was to dream when you were young? Every dream seemed achievable, and the word impossible was never in your vocabulary. Even though I struggled in school I still thought that I could be someone special in life. I remember when I was in year 5 and was struggling in school but my dream was to be a doctor when I grew up. No matter what the struggles were the future was still bright. However, by the time I was 15 years old the expectation of the bright future was slowly dying and by the…read more >

Stop and fix the tyre if it needs fixing

A few years ago I found myself doing a job that I did not like; I used to dread just waking up in the morning. I would get up every morning with the intention to make that day the best it could be but at the end of it I was back where I was the previous day. I had just left a job where I did reasonably well, I worked at a reception desk of a busy day unit but I made a decision to leave after experiencing what I thought was unfair treatment from the manager. However, here…read more >

You are the only person who needs to know why you are doing what you are doing

A few years ago I decided that the time had come for me to changes jobs and to show my boss some respect I told them that I had job interviews to go to. Their response was not the best, they questioned why I was going for those jobs I was going for. I knew that I had over stayed in the job and the time had come for me to move on, I did not take a lot of notice to what my manager was saying because I knew he time had come for me to move on. I…read more >